Some time ago I was thinking about my future, as you tend to do from time to time as a “middle aged” person might. “What is it that I enjoy most about my work”? Be it through music, education or human resources. The answer, People!
I enjoy taking and being with people.
Sharing stories, telling jokes. Having critical conversations, professional conversations or just “shooting the breeze”. What are other jobs that I could do that will allow me to continue this whilst providing comfort and a service to people? Celebrancy!
Having now completed Weddings and funerals I have found a real sense of fulfillment in providing meaning for people through ceremony. It is wonderful to speak with people as they share their stories of love. Love for a person they wish to spend the rest of their life with or stories of a loved one who has left this earth. It is a privilege and honour to sit with people who openly share with you. They want to relate stories and want them told. The next aspect of sharing those stories with others once again brings immense satisfaction.
Creating the right atmosphere in marrying a couple or providing the perfect farewell is tremendously enriching. Finding the perfect reading, involving the right people in the ceremony. Presenting professionally and setting the correct tone is something I enjoy. Seeing the joy on the faces of those who have employed you is amazing.
I leave with you with two readings, one for a funeral and one for a wedding.
I found comfort in this reading after the loss of my Father. With so many unanswered questions. In time you do find answers. Why did this person live a life What was there purpose? It does become obvious in time.
Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart (s).Try to love the questions themselves, liked locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language.
Do not look for the answers now. They cannot be given to you now because you could not live them now.
It is a question of experiencing everything. At present you need to live the question.
Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer, some distant day.
And for a wedding, a sonate used by Gustav Mahler in a composition for soprano and orchestra. Speaking of true love.
Oh do not love me! Love the sun, She has golden hair!
If you love for youth, Oh, do not love me! Love the spring; It is young every year!
If you love for treasure, Oh, do not love me! Love the mermaid; She has many clear pearls!
If you love for love, Oh yes, do love me! Love me ever, I’ll love you evermore!
Thank you for reading.
I wish you happiness.