What should you pay for a Wedding Celebrant?

What should I pay for a Wedding Celebrant?

You have a budget for your Wedding. What should you allow for your Wedding Celebrant?

To make a wedding legal there are 3 things that must occur as well as completing necessary legal documents. The rest of the ceremony is up you to plan with the assistance of your Celebrant.

The reason I am a Celebrant is that I love talking to people and sharing stories. My role then is to relate this to guests in a way that represents you as a couple and makes your day completely unique. I have a wealth of knowledge and experience in the areas of Education and the Performing Arts and believe that one of my key strengths is communication.

I have 3 basic service agreements that I can share with you. The service agreements and fees are there to start a conversation. I prefer to meet with a couple first, then negotiate the style of Wedding and associated fees if you believe I can fulfill your requirements.

My fees start at $500 for a simple No Fuss, “legals only” Ceremony of 7-10 minutes. From there you may work towards a fully personalised ceremony, $1,100, which can include music, readings, sub ceremonies and involve other family members, friends or even pets!

Everything is up for negotiation and discussion.
If you would like to know more about me you can find information on LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/geoffhayhow/ or Facebook www.facebook.com/geoffhayhowcelebrant/

Let’s chat!

More information on services

The Joy of being a Celebrant

Some time ago I was thinking about my future, as you tend to do from time to time as a “middle aged” person might. “What is it that I enjoy most about my work”? Be it through music, education or human resources. The answer, People!
I enjoy taking and being with people.

Sharing stories, telling jokes. Having critical conversations, professional conversations or just “shooting the breeze”. What are other jobs that I could do that will allow me to continue this whilst providing comfort and a service to people? Celebrancy!

Having now completed Weddings and funerals I have found a real sense of fulfillment in providing meaning for people through ceremony. It is wonderful to speak with people as they share their stories of love. Love for a person they wish to spend the rest of their life with or stories of a loved one who has left this earth. It is a privilege and honour to sit with people who openly share with you. They want to relate stories and want them told. The next aspect of sharing those stories with others once again brings immense satisfaction.

Creating the right atmosphere in marrying a couple or providing the perfect farewell is tremendously enriching. Finding the perfect reading, involving the right people in the ceremony. Presenting professionally and setting the correct tone is something I enjoy. Seeing the joy on the faces of those who have employed you is amazing.

I leave with you with two readings, one for a funeral and one for a wedding.

I found comfort in this reading after the loss of my Father. With so many unanswered questions. In time you do find answers. Why did this person live a life What was there purpose? It does become obvious in time.

Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart (s).Try to love the questions themselves, liked locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language.

Do not look for the answers now. They cannot be given to you now because you could not live them now.

It is a question of experiencing everything. At present you need to live the question.

Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer, some distant day.

And for a wedding, a sonate used by Gustav Mahler in a composition for soprano and orchestra. Speaking of true love.

Oh do not love me! Love the sun, She has golden hair!

If you love for youth, Oh, do not love me! Love the spring; It is young every year!

If you love for treasure, Oh, do not love me! Love the mermaid; She has many clear pearls!

If you love for love, Oh yes, do love me! Love me ever, I’ll love you evermore!

Thank you for reading.

I wish you happiness.

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A HEALTHY WORKPLACE

What is Well Being?

Well Being is a state of equilibrium or balances that can be affected by life events or challenges

Well Being – Being faced with challenges and meeting them.

Resilience – Having the capacity to meet the challenge (Personal and organisational)

Mindfulness – Deal with the issue now, not just part, or of a pre-conceived idea.

Well Being through clarity of purpose.

PURPOSE  MASTERY AUTONOMY
Do I matter?
Am I valuable?
Am I competent?
Am I able to learn?
Can I influence?
Do I have a say?

Are your colleagues or employees experiencing well being?  Do they matter? Do you make them feel like they matter and valuable?

Are they competent?  Have you got the right people of the right seat in the bus?  If so, are you providing the opportunity for growth?

Do they have or are they able to have a say?  Is there open discussion, an environment that enables constructive criticism and opportunity for change?

So, are people ENGAGED?

WELL BEING + ENGAGEMENT = PRODUCTIVITY

Increased Well Being, a Healthy Workplace = Increased productivity

Can we identify the stressors?

Change; Technology; 24/7 workplace; Conflict

Can we anticipate situations or events that may cause psychological injury or potential hazards to Mental Health?

  • Returning after maternity leave
  • Family issues – illness; financial;
  • Extended illness
  • Return from injury
  • Excessive workload – covering absence
  • Major change – In a team, in a branch; new programs or procedures

Can you find ways to minimise the stressors?

Professional conversations: Ask and listen

How often do we give the gift of our time for others? Having a positive conversation can be very easy and if you practice the art of listening, incredibly fulfilling for your colleague.

“Tell me a time when you were at your best”?
or
“Tell me about something you have done really well this week/month/term/year”?

Just listen. Don’t interject or ask questions.

Listen and identify the skill – e.g. preparation, persistence, empathetic, energy, researching, thinking outside the square, controlled etc

Confirm the skill you have identified.

“How do you or could you apply this to other situations?”

Listen!

A positive conversation that won’t take too much of your time.

Try it. I expect you will be thanked for your time.

Professional Conversations: Investigation

An Investigation as “a journey of learning beyond individuals”, concerning itself with the organisation.

The key points for an investigation.

Separate roles. The investigator and the decision maker. You can’t be both.

The Investigator

Be Non Judgmental. This is a negative or positive sense.

Be fair and respectful of all concerned, aware of the well being of all concerned.

Get ALL of the facts. Address each and every point.

Do not rely on memory. Poor memory becomes reconstruction +

Confidentiality needs to be explained and maintained by all parties. It is a word that is often misunderstood.

Be calm and patient. Do not submit to the time line of others

+ Reconstructive memory is a theory of elaborate memory recall proposed within the field of cognitive psychology, in which the act of remembering is influenced by various other cognitive processes including perception, imagination, semantic memory and beliefs, amongst others.

Confabulation is a disturbance of memory, defined as the production of fabricated, distorted, or misinterpreted memories about oneself or the world, without the conscious intention to deceive.

Professional Conversations: Talk to the person not about the person!

“OPINION is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding”.
Bill Bullard

Have you ever thought of doing an audit on your own conversations? How many in a day or a week are what you consider professional conversations? Conversations that move you forward, that find a solution, that result in immediate action.
Whilst there is always time for some social chat, there should never be time for gossip, perhaps disguised as expressing concern, or conversations that have no result. Conversations that talk about someone without really trying to fix a problem. Talk to the person not about them. If you are in a conversation like this, shut it down or look for a genuine solution.

Some points remember

Rumination is the focused attention on the symptoms of one’s distress, and on its possible causes and consequences, as opposed to its solutions.

Reconstructive memory is a theory of elaborate memory recall proposed within the field of cognitive psychology, in which the act of remembering is influenced by various other cognitive processes including perception, imagination, semantic memory and beliefs, amongst others.

Confabulation is a disturbance of memory, defined as the production of fabricated, distorted, or misinterpreted memories about oneself or the world, without the conscious intention to deceive.

Let’s chat

So what is it about my job that I love? Talking to people!

In any career, conversations I believe, are vital for success. The right conversation at the right time. Formulated, practised and delivered in a professional, timely and calm manner.

Why don’t we do it more? Why do never seem to have time?

Well schedule them, make the time.

The art of conversation is dying and it is the remedy to most ills within an organisation.

Look at our conversations now, even this blog.  Online, not too long so as not lose interest, but no inflection, no feeling.  Facebook posts, Twitter, Instagram (pictures only) do they always tell a thousand words?  Often now we are tempted to “converse” via email or text message. Limited by time we quickly shoot off a message knowing full well what we mean. In hindsight and often after receiving a reply, we realise that the intention of the message has not been delivered successfully. What follows may be an email exchange to explain, apologise and clarify. Would a face to face have been more efficient, or a skype or phone call?

Twitter limits to use an amount of characters, facebook posts allows us to add a feeling via emoji but wouldn’t a conversation be so much better?

Currently I am working on a series of workshops entitled “Professional Conversations”. Conversations that move us forward. Professional conversations should be solutions focused, timely and result in action.

I hope you may join me in a conversation soon.

 

Kind regards,

 

Geoff

It’s all about love. “If you love for love”

As a musician I love the work of the famous composer Gustav Mahler. This sonate perfectly captures the meaning of LOVE.

Readings can make a ceremony special and it is a wonderful way to involve a family member or close friend.

If you love for beauty,

Oh do not love me!

Love the sun,

She has golden hair!

If you love for youth,

Oh, do not love me!

Love the spring;

It is young every year!

If you love for treasure,

Oh, do not love me!

Love the mermaid;

She has many clear pearls!

If you love for love,

Oh yes, do love me!

Love me ever,

I’ll love you evermore!

Funerals

In the unfortunate circumstance of the loss of a loved one please call me to discuss options for your funeral arrangements. In time of grief I would like to assist. Taking care of all details to ensure the commemoration of your loved one is perfect.

POEMS OF GITANJALI by Gitanjali Ghei

It was beautiful as long as it lasted, the journey of my life, I have no regrets whatsoever, save the pain I’ll leave behind. 
Those dear hearts who love and care, and the heavy with sleep ever-moist eyes, the smile in spite of a lump in the throat and the strings pulling at the heart and soul, 
The strong arms that held me up when my own strength let me down, each morsel that I was fed with was full of love.
At every turning of my life I came across good friends, friends who stood by me, even when the time raced me by. 
Farewell, farewell my friends, I smile and bid you goodbye. 
No, shed no tears, for I need them not, all I need is your smile, If you feel sad, do think of me, for that’s what I’ll like, when you live in the hearts of those you love, remember then…… you never die.

Let’s talk! Significant milestones shared in a Ceremony

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. -Maria Robinson

As a graduate of the International College of Celebrancy I have come to realise that all of life’s major milestones should be celebrated with a personal and meaningful ceremony. I am pleased to offer my services to help you create an occasion that is unique and special to you. With over 30 years experience in education, human resources and the performing arts I can develop a ceremony or celebration that will incorporate aspects of music, prose, poetry and symbolism that will leave a lasting impression on all those who attend.

As an outstanding communicator, I enjoy meeting people and discussing life’s journey and finally presenting your thoughts and needs to a wider community. You may wish to be married, make a commitment to your partner or renew vows; celebrate a special birthday or a special life that has passed. Is it new employment or a new house? A coming of age or a naming ceremony. I would like to work with you to create a very special occasion. Let’s make a time to chat!

My commitment to the Celebrant Code of Practice assures you that your ceremony will be conducted according to this code and with full attention to the ceremonial and legal requirements of this day.

Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. -Saint Francis of Assisi